Are you struggling to forgive those in your life who have hurt you?
Do you feel they don’t deserve forgiveness for what they have done to you or someone you know/ love?
If you answered yes! Then this is for you.
I want to talk about forgiveness and the power of forgiving those who almost certainly don’t deserve it.
The best example of forgiveness i can give you is Jesus.
Jesus prayed to God while nailed to the cross, having endured hours of torture to ask, as it is written in Luke 23:34, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”
I mean wow.
After everything the world had done to him; reject him, betray him, slander his name, humiliate him, lie about him and gruesomely torture him for hours he still begged that WE be forgiven! When he had every right to curse our name and throw us to the devil!
It’s pretty powerful stuff considering the way most of us, if we’re being honest with ourselves hold grudges over people who have hurt us in the past.
I know there are those of us who, from any way you look at it have been severely hurt and betrayed in the past.
People who have endured abuse, rape, betrayal, rejection, lies, theft, molestation, and/ or been bullied.
These are all real and valid reasons (among many others) to feel totally hurt and betrayed by the actions of another person towards you.
You have every right to be angry, upset, confused and unable to move past it. This is normal, and would be quite frankly worrying if you didn’t feel some sort of way about it as it really isn’t in our nature to move past our pain and forgive on our own.
The only way we can truly do this is to make the conscious decision to forgive, despite the pain we feel and give it all to God.
Please let me explain.
Forgiveness does not make anything that that person did to you ok, not by a long stretch.
The act of forgiveness is more your opportunity to wash your hands of the past and say “what you did to me (name) was not right but I forgive you for (what they did)”
This takes the actions of that individual away from you and releases it 100% to God where he is now able to balance the scales and bring you the peace and healing you both need and deserve.
As it says in Romans’ 12:17-19. “Repay no one evil for evil. Have[a] regard for good things in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.”
Something that I have learnt through prayer ministry is that forgiveness is a continual process where you must actively commit your will to forgive someone, even when it’s hard.
I often have to rely on the power of God and ask for his strength in order to continue to forgive certain people in my life. I know all too well that left to my own devices I can easily be sucked back into the pain and anger of the past.
Remember: the devil doesn’t want us to live in harmony with God, ourselves or others and so manipulates us to believe we should ‘get even’ or ‘hate’ those who have wronged us instead of releasing it to God and trusting him and his final judgment.
What the devil doesn’t want you to know is that once you do you are finally free to move on and enjoy your life without the burden, pain, shame, or sin (through retaliation) of your past. Healing and peace can finally fill the space where those negative emotions once lived and controlled you.
Holding onto the pain will never change what happened to you, it just gives it the power to continue to hurt you over and over again, for the rest of your life if you don’t release it.
Forgiveness is very much your chance to break the negative cycle and say “I’M DONE! You have no power over me anymore, I forgive you and release you to God.”
Let me know in the comments below if this blog has helped you rethink forgiveness. If you are struggling to forgive someone, let me know as I would love to pray for you! Alternatively Please tell me if you HAVE managed to forgive someone and the effect this has had on your life!
Thank you for reading and God bless.